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A system guaranteed to damage babies
If you want to adopt, you're better off in America
First, an apology, to David Miliband and his wife, Louise: the last thing they will want to see today is a column in The Times about adoption. But behind the private arrival this week of their second adopted son, Jacob, there is an important public issue.
A fair amount has been written in the past two days, under cover of faux concern about a diplomatic faux pas, about the Foreign Secretary's failure to show up for a meeting with his Saudi counterpart when Jacob arrived two weeks early. Don't believe for a second that this is about diplomacy: can you imagine anyone raising even an eyebrow let alone a banner headline were a politician to cancel a meeting because his wife was giving birth? The story simply provides cover to report a second adoption by the Milibands of a baby born in America. The family was rightly upset by suggestions, when they adopted their first child, Isaac, three years ago, that they had somehow abused Mr Miliband's position as a Cabinet minister to fast-track the adoption.
It was utter rot: his wife has dual nationality and so the Milibands are entitled to adopt in the US. Every person I know who wants to adopt a child would jump at the chance of adopting there if they were only entitled to. It isn't true either that authorities in the States allow parents to “buy” a baby; what they ask is that you pay the mother's medical expenses, which can run into tens of thousands of dollars.
The moralisers should stop criticising the couple and ask a different question instead: why is it that a British foreign secretary and his wife, a professional violinist, are unable to adopt a young baby in the UK? Why, when there are thousands of babies under the age of 1 in the British care system, did they have to go to America at all?
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There are about 60,000 children in care at any one time, more than a third of them under 10. The vast majority are taken in because of abuse, neglect or dysfunctional families; it isn't their fault. Nobody reads them bedtime stories and they are ten times more likely to be excluded from school than other pupils. One teenage girl in care described her dream: “Mum would be in the kitchen cooking dinner with the washing machine going. I would get a drink from the fridge and go into the front room to watch TV.” As Ms Sergeant wrote, the very banality of the dream is a rebuke.
The State is too unwieldy a parent. Children, particularly abused and frightened ones, cannot be funnelled through a rigid system. Knowing as we do how bad the State is at looking after the kids entrusted to it, we ought to be encouraging the earliest possible adoption through the swiftest, simplest route. Yet government policy turned recently from encouraging more adoptions to improving the lot of children in care.
While a children-in-care Bill forms a central part of the Queen's speech next week, new money ring-fenced under Tony Blair for local authorities to increase adoptions stopped last year, since when there has been a 12 per cent drop in adoptions. The number of looked-after children adopted under the age of 1 has also fallen steeply. This side of the Atlantic, the State wins.